A wedding is one of the most important events in a person’s life. This change in status is, in fact, the beginning of a new stage. Even in ancient times, many signs appeared, the observance of which was supposed to ensure happiness for the newlyweds. This also applies to the main attribute of the holiday - the wedding ring. It symbolizes an unbreakable union, which is why there is a sign that you should always wear a wedding ring. But this does not apply to all people, and the superstition itself has some nuances.
Buying wedding rings
Signs and superstitions about wedding rings dictate what they should be like and how to buy them. Popular rumor claims that these nuances affect future married life.
When to buy?
Oddly enough, there are also superstitions about this:
- You need to buy wedding rings after the engagement, when the groom proposed and the bride and her parents accepted him.
- You cannot purchase marriage symbols on your wedding day.
- Both rings must be purchased at the same time from the same place.
If the groom wants to give a ring at the time of the marriage proposal, it should be an engagement ring. It has special power. If a girl gives her consent to marriage, then wearing an engagement symbol, she cannot flirt with young people.
Who should buy?
According to ancient traditions, the groom must choose and purchase it personally. Times have changed, the range of jewelry has expanded significantly, so the presence of the bride in a jewelry salon is acceptable. She can help with the choice, but the man must pay for the purchase.
How to choose?
In order for the family amulet to show all its strength, the wedding ring must be chosen correctly:
- It is better to opt for the simplest, smooth and even rings that will attract the same impeccable, calm family life.
- Do not engrave your wedding attributes so as not to put your future happiness to the test.
- Prefer products made of precious metals. The newlyweds' favorite is gold (yellow, white, red). This is a symbol of material wealth. Some newlyweds choose platinum as a symbol of the strength and inviolability of marriage. Silver is also allowed.
- It is customary for these paired jewelry to be made in the same style, from the same metal. If the rings are different, one is made of silver, the other is made of gold, then the spouse on whose finger the silver jewelry adorns will dominate the family.
- When choosing, trust your taste, pay less attention to fashion trends. Fashion changes quickly; a wedding attribute should decorate the hand for a long time.
- You need to be in a good mood when buying engagement rings. If it is not there, you should postpone the purchase.
If, when thinking about wedding rings, you imagine an accessory with stones, you need to know the signs about these additional inlay elements:
- Aquamarine is the keeper of the family hearth and will prevent adversity.
- Amethyst is the “catcher of happiness.”
- Turquoise is a symbol of fidelity and love.
- A diamond is a sign of strong family ties and represents the success of a person and a marriage.
- Pearls – health and longevity.
- Emerald is the stone of Venus (the goddess of love), enriches intimate relationships, and drives away disturbing thoughts.
- Moonstone is a protector from quarrels.
- Opal is a symbol of trust and sincere feelings.
- Ruby is a sign of eternal love, a protector from the evil eye.
- Sapphire - purity and morality, will help to remain faithful in a couple throughout life.
- Zircon is a deliverer from lovesickness.
There is one more useful sign. Upon returning home with a successful acquisition, say out loud at the doorstep: “To a happy life, to a strong family! Amen!"
Is it possible to take someone else's?
It is highly not recommended not only to use it for a wedding ritual, but also to simply try on used wedding rings. No matter how profitable it is to buy used rings, you should avoid it. You should also not accept wedding symbols as gifts or borrow them from friends.
Superstition on this matter states:
- Together with other people's jewelry, you can accept someone else's fate, most likely a bad one.
- Expensive things are ideal for causing damage. When a person gives away or throws away a piece of jewelry, together with it he strives to get rid of a serious illness or other misfortune, shifting the problems onto this thing.
How to avoid bad consequences
If a sign of punishment for removing a wedding ring frightens a person, it is better for him never to take it off. In this case, you will need to treat the accessory with due respect and take care of it. By making this decision, spouses avoid quarrels over suspicions of infidelity.
According to signs, family well-being depends not only on the constant wearing of jewelry, but also on the conditions of their purchase, as well as the absence of incidents during the ceremony. To ensure a prosperous life for the couple, wedding rings should be purchased by the couple in one place, and they should not be dropped during the ceremony. Also, a bride or already a wife should not be given a wedding accessory for other women to try on - according to superstition, this will lead to future infidelity between her husband and this girl.
Is it possible to try on wedding jewelry before the wedding?
According to signs, wedding rings after purchase cannot be worn until the marriage ceremony. Actually, there is no need for such a fitting, there is only simple curiosity. The magic of the wedding ritual lies in the novelty of sensations, so newlyweds put rings on each other for the first time in the registry office or during the wedding.
Signs about wedding rings do not say to wear these accessories until the wedding. It is recommended to fill them with water in a single container and freeze them. But if the bride wears a wedding ring, this means that the girl remains pure until the wedding. In this case, wearing a ring is acceptable.
What to do if the bride has lost her engagement ring?
Losing any ring is a bad sign. It's much worse when a wedding or engagement ring disappears. This suggests that the wedding may be upset, that the girl is unsure of her feelings, or that the young man made an insincere proposal. In this case, the bride and groom should listen to their feelings so as not to make an unfortunate mistake.
If a piece of jewelry accidentally falls off the bride’s finger, and the future newlyweds are confident in their desire to start a family, they urgently need to buy the same exact piece of jewelry as it was. The bride should continue to wear it.
How to handle wedding rings?
When you are married, wedding rings must be handled very carefully.
Is it allowed to rent or sell?
They cannot be pawned or sold, because this amounts to exchanging family happiness for money. You can also lose something very important in life if you sell the ring of your deceased spouse.
But after a divorce, the symbols of the former marriage are an obstacle to creating new relationships and finding other family happiness. They should be removed from the house (sold, donated, or even thrown away). Moreover, if you simply melt down the ring, it can preserve the energy of the broken union and continue to ruin life.
A wedding ring fell on a mural
This is a bad omen, foreshadowing an imminent separation, but it is easy to neutralize. To do this, the witness must pull a white thread through the ring, and the culprit of the incident (“the bungler” who dropped the attribute) must burn this thread with the words: “Fire, take all our troubles and sorrows.” It is believed that the thread will take over a bad omen, and the fire will completely destroy it.
Why shouldn't newlyweds touch an empty ring box?
After the main attributes of the wedding celebration are on the fingers of the newlyweds, the bride and groom should not pick up the box or pillow on which the betrothal symbols rested. This item should be taken by anyone who wants to get married as soon as possible (the girl can be one of the newlyweds’ friends or relatives).
A stand for rings (a box, a pillow, a saucer, etc.) has the same magical power as the bride’s bouquet, which is usually thrown into a crowd of bridesmaids at a wedding. An empty ring box becomes a kind of “catcher” for a new wedding.
Is it possible to put a ring on a glove?
This question interests brides for whom gloves are an integral attribute of their image, and newlyweds with various hand defects, serious or minor.
It is strictly forbidden to put a ring on a glove only during a wedding. When getting engaged at the registry office, there is no such strict prohibition. It is customary to remove the glove during the exchange of rings, even for reasons of practicality. To fit the decoration onto the fabric, it must be larger than necessary. Wearing such a ring in the future will be inconvenient, it will be easy to lose it, or you will have to hold it on your hand with a second one.
Is it possible to let other people try it on?
“A wedding ring is not a simple piece of jewelry...”, so you shouldn’t even let other people hold it, let alone try it on. Counts:
- If a stranger tries on your ring before the wedding, it can ruin all your wedding plans.
- If a stranger takes your marriage attribute after the wedding, he steals your family happiness.
In addition, until the celebration, it is not recommended to even show wedding attributes to anyone other than the closest relatives.
Why don't priests wear wedding rings?
The decoration is removed by persons who are ordained to the clergy, that is, during ordination. This tradition is explained by the fact that the ring is not only a symbol of the wife’s belonging to her husband and vice versa. This is also the connection between the Father and the Son, where the first is God and the second is man.
When the priest removes the ring he wore after his wedding, it symbolizes his betrothal to the church. From this moment on, he is responsible not only for his wife and children, but also for his parish, which is also considered a spiritual family, no less important.
Some people think that by doing so the priest shows that his own relatives are no longer so important to him. But when a person tries for the benefit of the parish, serves God, he also helps his family, because his work benefits everyone. As a result, the connection with my wife and children strengthens and becomes more spiritual.
The sign that prohibits removing the ring after the wedding celebration really has good reason. After all, decoration is a symbol of a strong union of two loving people. When they wear a ring, they show everyone the depth of their feelings. But still, you shouldn’t be afraid of signs. There are times when jewelry has to be removed, and this does not necessarily ruin the marriage. Common sense is important when following the ban.
Is it possible to film?
In the old days, after the wedding, it was not customary to remove the attributes of marriage, because they are a symbol of love, a talisman against any shocks and serious illnesses. It was believed that when a person takes off his wedding ring, he and his significant other are left without protection.
But modern experts (medics and esotericists) do not recommend constantly wearing rings in order to avoid blocking the energy flow. In practice, you have to remove jewelry when performing wet work. It is recommended not to put on the wedding ring yourself - this should be done by the spouse each time. This will preserve the strength of the union.
Some women get scared when their husband doesn't wear a ring. Of course, you need to be vigilant. Suddenly a man does not want to reveal his marital status to his passion or mistress. But many representatives of the stronger sex simply do not like to wear jewelry; they are irritated by unnecessary elements on their hands.
In what cases can you remove the engagement ring?
First of all, it all depends on how superstitious a person is. Many people believe that the more someone fears negativity, the more they are attracted to it. Therefore, esotericists advise not to think about the bad consequences when a woman or man takes off a ring. Many religions do not approve of superstition because it disrespects God.
The Church will not condemn those who for some reason do not wear jewelry. Moreover, there are many objective reasons for this, when the product can interfere or even create a danger if it gets caught.
There are several other situations when jewelry is temporarily removed:
- During childbirth. Signs say that this will make it easier for the baby to appear, besides, the woman’s fingers swell and the ring cuts into the skin.
- When caring for a child, so as not to injure him.
- During hygiene procedures - for convenience and to prevent the ring from darkening.
- In the pool, sauna, when a person is swimming, so as not to slip.
- You can also remove it in a bathhouse, as the metal gets too hot.
Doctors advise periodically removing the ring so as not to squeeze the blood vessels. Therefore, when following signs, you must not forget about common sense, otherwise you can cause harm to your health.
Which finger to wear the ring on
The placement of the ring on the hand is as important as the symbolic decoration itself. Traditionally, wedding and engagement rings are worn on the ring finger. Only in the USA and most European countries is the sign of marriage on the left hand, and in Russia - on the right. The reasons for such differences are unclear. After all, the ring finger of the left hand is directly connected to the heart. It is quite logical to wear a symbol of love and fidelity on it.
Women pay more attention to conventions. Therefore, you can find out about a lady’s marital status by the jewelry on her hands:
- The ring on the ring finger of the right hand is evidence of a woman’s marriage.
- Marriage attribute on the ring finger of the left hand - the lady is divorced. Sometimes widows or women dreaming of divorce wear a wedding ring on this finger.
- 2 wedding rings (one on the middle finger, the other on the ring finger) - a widowed woman remembers her husband and remains faithful to him. On her middle finger, a woman wears something belonging to her late husband. If such a combination of marriage attributes is on a lady’s hand while her husband is alive, this is a wish for death to the spouse.
- A wedding ring on the little finger is a desire to improve family relationships. Therefore, if the ring has become small, it can be worn on the little finger without harming the marriage.
All of the above rules apply to men as well. Only the stronger sex often does not wear wedding jewelry. But an experienced eye allows one to judge a man’s marital status even by the mark of the ring on his finger.
Can I use my parents' wedding rings?
The marriage attributes of older relatives can be passed on to subsequent generations if the parents’ marriage was long and happy (people lived at least until their silver wedding).
Family heirlooms can be worn or not worn, but they cannot be melted down so that the accumulated positive experience does not disappear. If the jewelry does not fit, it is better to carefully store it together in a box. This way they will bring more benefits to the new family.
The main reasons for refusing to wear an accessory
There are many circumstances due to which spouses still remove their rings. One of the most unpleasant is that a husband or wife has an affair and does not show his mistress or lover that they are married. However, other situations may also be the reasons, which do not at all mean that married life has come to an end.
Here's why women don't wear a ring:
- I didn’t like it because of the changed taste, I was just tired of it, I wanted something new.
- Due to professional activities. Masseuses and catering workers have to remove the jewelry.
- The ring also gets in the way when doing household chores, and then they forget to put it on.
- Doesn't fit anymore.
- Doesn't go well with the outfit.
- The spouse is afraid of losing or damaging it if the product is expensive.
For men, everything is simpler. The husband usually does not wear a wedding ring for the following reasons:
- I just don't like it.
- The decoration is inconvenient, and for male representatives its beauty is not so important.
- Cannot be worn due to the nature of the profession.
- The ring is lost.
For this reason, it is advised to find out why the spouse took off the jewelry, and not to quarrel. Otherwise, a negative sign will definitely work.
Other signs about wedding rings
There are many beliefs about wedding rings. For example, if a husband leaves home, the wife only needs to look after him through her wedding ring, and the man will definitely return. Wedding jewelry serves as a talisman for the whole family, and not just for the person to whom it belongs. For example, if a baby is sick, you can put his father or mother’s wedding ring under his pillow, the child will recover quickly.
The magical power of rings is obtained as a result of reading special spells over them, or during religious ceremonies (engagement, betrothal). It is clear that any troubles with such expensive items (broken, cracked, blackened) cause anxiety in their owner.
If the engagement or wedding ring is cracked, this indicates instability in the couple's relationship. There are several explanations:
- The item warns the owner about the infidelity of the spouse.
- A breakdown foreshadows a difficult period in the life of a family with the presentation of mutual claims and stormy showdowns.
- Damage to the ring indicates the appearance of an enemy who wants to quarrel between spouses and casts a spell against them.
In the latter case, the thing deteriorates, taking on other people's bad thoughts and averting trouble. Therefore, there is no need to torment your partner with suspicions. It's better to buy new rings and exchange them. Moreover, it is important to buy exactly 2 new jewelry so as not to break the pair. Old rings can be melted down into other jewelry.
If the wedding ring turns black, it brings sad thoughts. In fact, it is explained by the low quality of the metal. If the real gold ring or the finger underneath it darkens, this means that there is a lot of negativity around (envy, enemies), and the wedding attribute is taking it upon itself.
Other signs
- If the ring becomes small, you can “roll it out”. According to signs, increasing the size of rings prolongs the happy period of marriage.
- A lost ring is a sign of an upcoming major quarrel that could lead to divorce.
- Found a golden wedding ring - a harbinger of a repeat of a series of events that you have already gone through. It is advisable not to take or wear someone else’s item.
- It lies at a crossroads - it cannot be taken. Surely someone is casting a spell on him.
- If the gold ring is bent in your hands, you are about to become the culprit in creating problems with your spouse.
One of the main prohibitions is that you should not let anyone take the wedding ring off your finger! Then your marriage will last for decades.
Where did superstition come from?
The tradition of wearing rings during engagement and after marriage dates back to ancient times. It was not without reason that wedding decoration was made in the form of a closed circle - this form was considered ideal for preserving family ties and protecting against the machinations of evil spirits. There was a whole set of rules for the manufacture, appearance and wearing of rings by spouses.
The ritual of exchanging symbols of love has survived to this day. However, few people realize the mystical meaning of this sacrament. Various incidents with wedding rings have given rise to folk superstitions. For example, losing jewelry on a wedding day is considered an unfavorable sign for the newlyweds. There is a belief according to which it is strictly forbidden to remove a wedding ring. Many couples today neglect this rule. But in vain - this modest decoration can strengthen the most unstable relationships.
During the wedding, the newlyweds exchange marriage vows, which are sealed with rings. They are a kind of magical locks for securing a certain undertaking. Therefore, by putting wedding jewelry on each other’s fingers, a man and a woman “sign” a heavenly contract with higher powers about the safety of their union. As soon as one of the partners removes the “lock”, the invisible protection is broken.
Psychologists have noticed that spouses who are dissatisfied with their marriage often touch and fiddle with their wedding rings, as if they want to get rid of family ties. And those men and women who allow cheating do not like to wear them at all.
